ok, if you have been around for a hot second, you know that i loooove mean girls. like, fave movie ever, and i don’t even like movies. so when i saw this tank, you know i had to have it. YOU GO GLEN COCO!
photo cred: maria lloyd photography [so good, much recommend]
the more i think about the actual premise of mean girls, though, the more i think about how i don’t want to be a mean girl. not in your normal, catty sense, where it’s outwardly obvious [i mean, i try not to be THAT girl, too] no, i don’t want to be the mean girl that thinks the mean thoughts, both of others and myself. this is a struggle for me on a regular basis. whether i’m driving, and i’m cussing out the person who cut me off, or i’m telling myself i am wholly unqualified for a project i’m working on, i have been actively trying to quiet my inner mean girl. here’s a few ways i work on this:
- positive self-talk. it sounds so woo-woo, i get it. when i am faced with a challenge, i don’t tell myself “i can do this;” i tell myself “i can try this,” and then eat the frog [check out this blog post for more on eating that frog!]
- i SHARE tips/tricks/info. i didn’t even realize it was a ‘thing’ to not tell people where you got something/heard something/saw something until i was reading the skinny confidential, and she mentioned that sometimes girls won’t tell you. wanna know where i got my bag? i’ll tell ya! shampoo i use? i’ll send you the link. did you miss a meeting? let me catch you up! it’s not that hard to share, and a little goes a long way. you NEVER know how valuable the info you truly have is. sharing is caring, ppl.
- if i think it, i say it. not the mean stuff, of course. but there are SO many times i think of something i want to say or ask someone, and i don’t because i’m convinced i’ll sound stupid. i’ve started to tell both strangers and friends not only if i like their hair/bag/outfit etc., but that they had a great point/message/etc. if someone is adding value, tell them! it gets easier, and the best part is, your brain will start to look for the positive in things, and you won’t dwell on the negatives. it’s really a win-win.
mean girls are the worst, so i’ve made the decision that i am going to stop give my inner mean girl so much real estate in my mind, and start honoring my inner nice-girl. nice is NOT overrated, and you can sit with us! again: you go, glen coco.
one last thing: this outfit is giving me LYFE. it is literally my 2000 middle school best self. denim skirt? chunky slides? mean girl tee? YES YES YES. so much yes. also, since we are on the topic of sharing tips/tricks/info, i feel like i would be remiss if i didn’t tell you HOW COMFY THESE SHOES ARE {plus, they are target, of course}. comfy shoes are a must for me, since i walk so much in my day-to-day. brb, 8th grade kelsey is dying over them right now.